I'ma mother of a daughter and a son, when my daughter was l8 years told us he was in love!
The thing is I was really in love, but of another woman!
The shock came and gave way to fear, guilt and constantly ask ourselves, without pause: What had we done wrong ?...¿ ?...¿ Why this happened to us why she adored our baby, our beautiful Chinese girl, could be in love with another woman?. ..
ignorance really is the mother of many abuses, the ignorance that comes from school, which is validated with the Christian religion, becomes conscious or unconscious acceptance of many prejudices, myths and many conflicts absurd nonsense.
Because of our own ignorance and our fears we live, since then, many days of anguish, grief, and non-stop bickering with our beloved daughter.
Personally, as a mom, a woman, as a professional, was unable and unwilling to open my mind and heart to accept my daughter.
As a mom, a woman, as a professional I wanted to understand, understand, know that was what happened to my daughter.
had the idea that if I opposed it and their ideas homosexuals could make changes. Thought that with help from a psychiatrist or physician may, and chemical analysis and all those things could make her change her sexual orientation and finally decided to be like everyone else, to be "normal."
really was a hard time and many conflicts.
Our relationship is not greatly affected but underwent a period of silence and estrangement with our daughter ... we lived like we have never done nor would we want to do it ... it away from us and we in a painful silence and absurd.
We talked on the phone because she also lives far from us, and really felt we were losing ... so far and yet so close to our hearts and our thoughts every day, every night, every hour ...
Despite all that we do not travel, we came every fortnight or every weekend if possible, because in no way wanted to move away permanently, because for us the family-our family, has always been the most important and most valuable, those ties golden love and compassion, solidarity, security, strength, allowed us to, among other things, for example, in our province to overcome the difficult years of violence together.
Together we survived and wanted to stay together forever.
My daughter was and is in love with a beautiful girl and I recognize fully and because she never encouraged in my daughter, no anger or resentment against us, could have made my daughter and we hated to go away even more of our family but never did, unlike her and her family helped him support and comfort for long hours of sadness we live together and apart.
The love of my daughter, always gave us lessons of honor, loyalty, moral and psychological integrity, through she learned.
For the love of two who was and is strong and constant, one day realized that it was absurd to insist on our position as parents, "sore" from parents who wanted to understand, understand, know ... we just decided that it no longer further study the issue, no longer try to understand the theories and speculations of a thousand thousand different strands, just love and accept our daughter as she is.
my daughter's homosexuality as a reason to fear and anxieties, your love relationship gives happiness and joy and that's what we always wanted for her!
is incredible but our ideas about homosexuality were heavily contaminated, and say it is amazing because both my husband and I are people "educated" professional, intellectual, love poetry, art, beauty of life life ... and when we tested our daughter with this gay, just do not know what to do.
If any great lesson we learned is that we should not make hasty decisions on the affairs of the people we love most in life, in the case of homosexuality, is worth almost nothing, more that general information, studying the theories and currents on the same ... we love our daughter and what we should have from the beginning was OK, and then try to understand as far as possible the issue. Ultimately
out and there existed in the history of art, science, literature, many gay men and women who have been and are exceptional human beings and have left wonderful legacies for mankind, there are Leonardo Da Vinci, Marguerite Yourcenaire, Maria Elena Walsh, Michel Foucault, Oscar Wilde, Virginia Woolf, Marcel Proust, among others.
is not a matter of sexual orientation, or gender, is a matter of human relations, education, honesty, learning to live in peace, with justice, morality, freedom.
Understand that the other is entitled to continue their very nature, to accept that their nature may be homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual, to accept that their dreams are different from ours, accept that we have no right to decide about dreams and love our children makes us free and gave us medals parents also most loved and most respected well.
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